Good News! Anger responses are learned behaviors, not instinctive. This means, it’s easier to change our OUTWARD anger behavior than change the INTERNAL experiences of anger.
This extremely important step helps repair damaged relationships and stops the repetitive cycle of acting out followed by remorse, shame, and guilt. When we act differently, we can begin to feel different.
When anger has gotten the best of you, think about restorative communication.
Use “I statements”
Be an active listener
Make eye contact
The vulnerability restorative communication requires isn’t an easy to check off your list. Vulnerability takes emotional awareness. It takes differentiation, self-correction and self-compassion.
Keeping in mind responses to anger is learned, patterns of behavior can change.