When we are emotionally struggling, it’s easy to forget the strengths we have and resources surrounding us. For those with a strong spiritual connection. A perspective of being connected to a higher power and not being alone can be a strength. A religious framework can help us see things from the prescriptive, trials we face are a part of a bigger picture and purpose.
Spent some time talking with an OB/GYN practice earlier this week. I wanted to share some useful finding. First I want to explain the term Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder (PMAD). Includes woman whose symptoms begin during pregnancy and after delivery (Perinatal). It’s not just depression woman experience. Having symptoms of anxiety is common (Mood disorders and anxiety disorders). So for many women calling it Postpartum Depression just isn’t encompassing enough.
So much grief and sorrow have surrounded this week as parents we all grieve with those in Florida, in that complete heartbreak a question is rising,” How do we stop this? Enough is enough.” Press releases and articles are circulating social media all offer ideas and reform. Dealing with something so emotionally heavy for all of us and being in a position of helplessness and fear is paralyzing.
Am I handling this OK? Do I need to talk to someone, is this normal?I can’t keep struggling like this…there has to be something I can do.
Loved being a part of The Wild Outsiders Club’s first mama’s mental health night. What an amazing group of moms doing extraordinary things! These incredible women come together weekly with kids in tow to explore trails and complete hikes all along the Wasatch Front. Their story is one I am drawn to. These young moms are finding a way to do what they love and sharing it with one another and the children they dearly love.
The idea of self-care sounds good, right? It’s accepted as being important and recognized as having great value. Yet, the gap between it being a nice thought and being implemented is wide. For moms, it can be more than just a wide gap between thought and action. That’s because for most of us there is an underlying stigma associated with self-care. It is so strategically placed in our minds that we might not even detect its presents. This underlying stigma might sound something like, “If I just liked being a mom more, I would be fine.”
Feeling overwhelmed is no one’s favorite feeling to experience. Yet it’s a regular occurrence for many of us. Feeling overwhelmed makes us feel like no matter what, we can’t accomplish what we really want to. It can seem as though being overwhelmed is accomplishment’s enemy. However, the problem isn’t being overwhelmed it’s how you react to it. It’s your reaction that creates the distance between yourself and your accomplishments.
In Tim Burton’s 2010 version of Alice in Wonderland, Alice says… “From the moment I fell down that rabbit hole, I’ve been told what I must do and who I must be. I’ve been shrunk, stretched, scratched and stuffed into a teapot. I’ve been accused of being Alice and of not being Alice…”
You know the steps it takes to get out the door, the planning it takes to get through your day. It’s not always a time crunch as it is a never ending list of crossing off tasks. I often hear women say, “I don’t want to be the stressed mom, the one that is yelling, and hardly listening, the one that is impatient and explosive.” Yet when you are feeling rushed somehow you end up being the worst version of yourselves. By following these three rules, you will learn how to manage the negative consequences of being in a hurry.
“All-or-nothing thinking” is filtering your thoughts through a black or white filter. Making everything either white or black, all or nothing. It can seem like a smart, practical, solution to counteract feeling out of control. Yet, it does the opposite, it limits your options and makes you feel worse.