Ask any mother you know and she will probably admit having somewhat of a love hate relationship with summer. While the care-free agenda of open schedules, less routine and more time together sounds ideal, it can also be a very overwhelming time. Trying to create a nostalgic experience of summer while maintaining work schedules can stir-up feelings of guilt.
Focusing on one role-at-a-time gives you the opportunity to see what it is you are accomplishing and feeling accomplished becomes a motivator for productivity. All too often, anxiety and feeling overwhelmed take over.
No job on earth is all sunshine and rainbows. Motherhood, like any other responsibility or profession, has its pros and cons. If you heard a doctor say, “You know what I love interacting with patients but despise washing my hands 500 times a day.” You wouldn’t jump to the conclusion she was in the wrong profession regardless of the years of training and hard-work to do something she truly loves. Not loving everything about motherhood doesn’t undermine your ability to be a good mother.
When we are emotionally struggling, it’s easy to forget the strengths we have and resources surrounding us. For those with a strong spiritual connection. A perspective of being connected to a higher power and not being alone can be a strength. A religious framework can help us see things from the prescriptive, trials we face are a part of a bigger picture and purpose.
Spent some time talking with an OB/GYN practice earlier this week. I wanted to share some useful finding. First I want to explain the term Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder (PMAD). Includes woman whose symptoms begin during pregnancy and after delivery (Perinatal). It’s not just depression woman experience. Having symptoms of anxiety is common (Mood disorders and anxiety disorders). So for many women calling it Postpartum Depression just isn’t encompassing enough.
So much grief and sorrow have surrounded this week as parents we all grieve with those in Florida, in that complete heartbreak a question is rising,” How do we stop this? Enough is enough.” Press releases and articles are circulating social media all offer ideas and reform. Dealing with something so emotionally heavy for all of us and being in a position of helplessness and fear is paralyzing.
Am I handling this OK? Do I need to talk to someone, is this normal?I can’t keep struggling like this…there has to be something I can do.
Loved being a part of The Wild Outsiders Club’s first mama’s mental health night. What an amazing group of moms doing extraordinary things! These incredible women come together weekly with kids in tow to explore trails and complete hikes all along the Wasatch Front. Their story is one I am drawn to. These young moms are finding a way to do what they love and sharing it with one another and the children they dearly love.
The idea of self-care sounds good, right? It’s accepted as being important and recognized as having great value. Yet, the gap between it being a nice thought and being implemented is wide. For moms, it can be more than just a wide gap between thought and action. That’s because for most of us there is an underlying stigma associated with self-care. It is so strategically placed in our minds that we might not even detect its presents. This underlying stigma might sound something like, “If I just liked being a mom more, I would be fine.”
Feeling overwhelmed is no one’s favorite feeling to experience. Yet it’s a regular occurrence for many of us. Feeling overwhelmed makes us feel like no matter what, we can’t accomplish what we really want to. It can seem as though being overwhelmed is accomplishment’s enemy. However, the problem isn’t being overwhelmed it’s how you react to it. It’s your reaction that creates the distance between yourself and your accomplishments.