In Tim Burton’s 2010 version of Alice in Wonderland, Alice says… “From the moment I fell down that rabbit hole, I’ve been told what I must do and who I must be. I’ve been shrunk, stretched, scratched and stuffed into a teapot. I’ve been accused of being Alice and of not being Alice…”
You know the steps it takes to get out the door, the planning it takes to get through your day. It’s not always a time crunch as it is a never ending list of crossing off tasks. I often hear women say, “I don’t want to be the stressed mom, the one that is yelling, and hardly listening, the one that is impatient and explosive.” Yet when you are feeling rushed somehow you end up being the worst version of yourselves. By following these three rules, you will learn how to manage the negative consequences of being in a hurry.
“All-or-nothing thinking” is filtering your thoughts through a black or white filter. Making everything either white or black, all or nothing. It can seem like a smart, practical, solution to counteract feeling out of control. Yet, it does the opposite, it limits your options and makes you feel worse.
These three skills are not tools you can increase frustration tolerance, pace your emotional health and keep things in perspective by practicing them, engaging in them, utilizing them and modeling them.