Why do Monday’s feel so rough sometimes? The day after a vacation or a holiday? It’s because they are the day we get back into it. They are a “re-entry.” Recognize that these days are different and create a space for them to be just that-a place to restart. <!– –>
When things go wrong, do you find yourself blaming yourself? A common distorted thinking pattern is to focus on the wrong you do and not give yourself credit for the good you do. The next time you blame yourself, stop. Check the facts. Then sing this little tune to those blaming thoughts and for fun […]
My little guy’s first name starts with T and when he was learning to read and write, everywhere he turned I would hear, “Mom there is a big T.” or “Look, Mom a little t.” In the therapy world “Big T” and “Little t.” Have been coined to represent something else. Big trauma (T) and […]
This common phrase is used in a variety of ways all the time. Stop for a second and think about how it diminishes your experience, sells short the loss you feel.After we have poured our hearts out- we finish our thought with “It could be worse…”
I know this famous quote from Dr. Seuss is referring to how we care of this beautiful world we live in. But lately, it’s been on repeat in my mind regarding how I car for myself. I sure wish there was a way to hold someone, anyone else accountable for my unhealthy habits or even just the absence of healthy ones. But truthfully no one can make as big of a difference for my health as I can.
Good News! Anger responses are learned behaviors, not instinctive. This means, it’s easier to change our OUTWARD anger behavior than change the INTERNAL experiences of anger.This extremely important step helps repair damaged relationships and stops the repetitive cycle of acting out followed by remorse, shame, and guilt. When we act differently, we can begin to feel different.
I know a question we all ask over and over again. “Is this anxiety?” Or “Is this because I am too busy?” ” I am a mom- isn’t feeling overwhelmed part of it?”At a conference with Margaret Wehrenberg, Psy.D she shared a concept about controlling too much activity something she called (TMA).When we get caught up being “too busy” and over scheduled we limit our ability to learn to calm and exercise relaxation skills.
It is a phrase we use all the time, somethings we mean it, but most the time we just it to cover up how we really feel. Think about how you use the phrase in these 2 negative ways.
I work with women; who years later find themselves processing for the first time (or the millionth time) sexual trauma from their past. Because healing is not linear. It is important for both survivors and community members to understand how to respond.