This common phrase is used in a variety of ways all the time. Stop for a second and think about how it diminishes your experience, sells short the loss you feel.After we have poured our hearts out- we finish our thought with “It could be worse…”
I know this famous quote from Dr. Seuss is referring to how we care of this beautiful world we live in. But lately, it’s been on repeat in my mind regarding how I car for myself. I sure wish there was a way to hold someone, anyone else accountable for my unhealthy habits or even just the absence of healthy ones. But truthfully no one can make as big of a difference for my health as I can.
Good News! Anger responses are learned behaviors, not instinctive. This means, it’s easier to change our OUTWARD anger behavior than change the INTERNAL experiences of anger.This extremely important step helps repair damaged relationships and stops the repetitive cycle of acting out followed by remorse, shame, and guilt. When we act differently, we can begin to feel different.
I know a question we all ask over and over again. “Is this anxiety?” Or “Is this because I am too busy?” ” I am a mom- isn’t feeling overwhelmed part of it?”At a conference with Margaret Wehrenberg, Psy.D she shared a concept about controlling too much activity something she called (TMA).When we get caught up being “too busy” and over scheduled we limit our ability to learn to calm and exercise relaxation skills.
It is a phrase we use all the time, somethings we mean it, but most the time we just it to cover up how we really feel. Think about how you use the phrase in these 2 negative ways.
I work with women; who years later find themselves processing for the first time (or the millionth time) sexual trauma from their past. Because healing is not linear. It is important for both survivors and community members to understand how to respond.
Ask any mother you know and she will probably admit having somewhat of a love hate relationship with summer. While the care-free agenda of open schedules, less routine and more time together sounds ideal, it can also be a very overwhelming time. Trying to create a nostalgic experience of summer while maintaining work schedules can stir-up feelings of guilt.
Focusing on one role-at-a-time gives you the opportunity to see what it is you are accomplishing and feeling accomplished becomes a motivator for productivity. All too often, anxiety and feeling overwhelmed take over.
No job on earth is all sunshine and rainbows. Motherhood, like any other responsibility or profession, has its pros and cons. If you heard a doctor say, “You know what I love interacting with patients but despise washing my hands 500 times a day.” You wouldn’t jump to the conclusion she was in the wrong profession regardless of the years of training and hard-work to do something she truly loves. Not loving everything about motherhood doesn’t undermine your ability to be a good mother.